The Art of Real dialogue

Zambia 🇿🇲 Centre for InterParty Dialogue! As expected, many Zambians have different opinions and perception regarding the success or challenges of this organisation. I’m not here to judge or assess anyone. Other factors including The waring factions have a great role to play in resolving any form of differences.

When you disagree with someone, the way out of that disagreement is not to strengthen it by holding firmly to your own side. The most valuable and productive way out is to resolve the situation by finding common ground. That does not mean giving in. It does not mean forcing the other person to give in to you. Instead, it means being as open, honest and direct as possible. It means acting with a genuine desire to arrive at the best solution for everyone involved.

Collaboration is important not just because it’s a better way to learn. The spirit of collaboration is penetrating every institution and all of our lives. So learning to collaborate is part of equipping yourself for effectiveness, problem solving, innovation and life-long learning in an ever-changing networked economy. – Don Tapscott

To every extent possible, forget about the disagreement itself and look for what the situation is trying to tell you. Imagine yourself in the place of the other person, and look at things from that perspective. Nothing of value is produced by arguing. Look instead for ways to cooperate, to understand and to make yourself more clearly understood.

If people work together in an open way with porous boundaries – that is, if they listen to each other and really talk to each other – then they are bound to trade ideas that are mutual to each other and be influenced by each other. That mutual influence and open system of working creates collaboration. – Richard Thomas

When you’re concerned only with what works for you, and only with what affects you, then you’re never going to receive any cooperation because you are egocentric. Self centred and probably selfish! I know several fellows like that.

Yet when you concern yourself with what’s best for all involved, that’s when you start to get somewhere. Stay well and be blessed.

Published by Kunda Kalaba

Financial Crime Compliance (FCC) professional. Passionate about AML/CTF, Sanctions, ABC, KYC, CDD. Member - World Advisory Council Association of Certified Fraud Examiners-ACFE. Member of the African Task Force Committee - ACAMS. Presenter at International Conferences-ACAMS&ACFE. Certified Fraud Examiner-CFE. ACFE & ACAMS Singapore Chapters Member. Certified Anti-Money Laundering Specialist-CAMS. Certified Anti-Bribery and Corruption-ABC. Chairperson, ABC Working Group. Founder - Institute of Directors (IoD) Zambia Chapter. Founder - Managerial Accountability & Transparency. Two-term of two years Chairperson of the Bankers Association of Zambia Fraud Prevention and Security Committee. Zambian Government to SADC and COMESA Consultant on Crime & Corruption Prevention & management Strategies. Sound & vast experience in FCC Compliance, Deterrence, Prevention, Detection, Investigations, Security and Prosecutions. 25 years extensive experience in FCC, ABC, AML, CTF, Fraud & Operational risk assessment & Investigations. STA in Financial Crime Compliance & Risk management in London, Coventry & Southampton in the UK. Area Head of FCC for Southern & East Africa responsible for Risk Assessments & Investigations, AML/CTF, Sanctions. Central Bank regulatory and AML Directives appointed as Country Money Laundering Prevention/Reporting Officer-CMLPO. Professionally trained “trainer of trainers” & core facilitator. Proficient with proven track record of exceptional abilities in management and leadership for performance. Corporate Governance, capacity building, Institutional & Organizational development, business process re-engineering. Technical expertise is coupled with excellent interpersonal, team building, communication and presentation skills.

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