Khundah Khatwishi Khalabah
Don’t throw the Rose away just because you’re prickled by the thorns.
The problem with most human beings is that of not remembering the good times when some form of change comes into our lives, and we instead resort to focusing on whatever is our current predicament. The story below is one of such. l hope you find it as enlightening as l did and you may wish to share it with our kin and kith.
Josephine Mwananshimba married William John Banda on one memorable morning. At the end of the wedding reception, Josephine Mwananshimba’s mother gave her a newly opened bank saving passbook, with ZMW1000 deposited in the account.
Mother: ‘Josephine Mwananshimba, take this passbook. Keep it as a record of your marriage life. When there’s something happy and memorable happening in your new life, put some money in. Write down what it’s about next to the line. The more memorable the event is, the more money you can put in. I’ve done the first one for you today. Do the others with William John Banda. When you look back after years, you can know how much happiness you’ve had.’
Josephine Mwananshimba shared this with William John Banda when she got home. They both thought it was a great idea and were anxious to know when the second deposit can be made.
This was what they did each time they shared a happy occasion:
– 7 Feb: ZMW100, first birthday celebration for William John Banda after marriage
– 1 Mar: ZMW300, salary raise for Josephine Mwananshimba
– 20 Mar: ZMW200, vacation trip to Siavonga and Kariba Town
– 15 Dec : ZMW2000, Josephine Mwananshimba had a bouncy baby girl
– 1 Jun: ZMW1000, William John Banda got promoted…. and so on…
However, years after, they started fighting and arguing for trivial things. They didn’t talk much. They regretted that they had married each other, found faults with each other, they had become incompatible, they were too busy with careers, etc. Kind of typical nowadays, huh, smile..you know the sort of stuff…Familiar?
One day Josephine Mwananshimba talked to her Mother: ‘Mom, we can’t stand it anymore. We agree to divorce. I can’t imagine how I decided to marry this guy!!!’
Mother: ‘Sure, girl, that’s no big deal. Just do whatever you want if you really can’t stand it. But before that, do one thing first. Remember the saving passbook I gave you on your wedding day? Take out all money and spend it first. You shouldn’t keep any record for such a poor marriage.’
Josephine Mwananshimba thought it was a good idea. So she went to the bank, waiting at the queue and planning to cancel the account. While she was waiting, she took a look at the passbook record. She looked, and looked, and looked. Then the memory of all the previous joy and happiness just came up her mind. Her eyes were then filled with tears. She left and went home. When she was home, she handed the passbook to William John Banda, asked him to spend the money before getting divorce.
The next day, William John Banda gave the passbook back to Josephine Mwananshimba. She found a new deposit of ZMW5000. And a line next to the record: ‘this is the day I notice how much I’ve loved you throughout all these years. How much happiness you’ve brought me.’
They hugged and cried, putting the passbook back to the safe. Do you know how much money they had saved when they retired? I did not ask. I believe the money did not matter anymore after they had gone through all the good years in their life.
When you fall, don’t see the place where you fell, instead see the place from where you slipped. Life is about correcting mistakes. Correct yours if you can and now! Life goes. Enjoy life now; after all, no one gets out of it alive anyway. Have a Lovely Weekend folks. KKK999